Confident

Hello there, lovelies!

We’re celebrating this week – whoooo! It’s been 2 years since I’ve started talking to you through the blog – I cannot believe it!

I began posting on this blog because of my passion for fashion and styling, and I genuinely thought that my posts will always be focused around the outfits. But I quickly realised that I enjoy the actual writing just as much, I enjoy putting my thoughts together and write them down, express my opinions, shape my beliefs and even open up about feelings that I go through in my (offline) life.

These past couple of years have been a ride, I am a very passionate person so I embrace life with all that I am. As my life went up and down, I was overflown with emotions and I went through a lot of changes myself. I feel like I grew as a person, that I defined my values, that I became more confident and more focused on myself.

And when I say confident – I for any means, don’t mean it in an arrogant way! This has always been a weird topic for me – it was always like be confident, but not too confident, and I was always very confused, how do I do that? Besides, people’s reactions to my character are always diverse, they either appreciate and admire my confidence or they are intimidated by me, or even more, they believe I am bossy and a know-it-all.

It’s hard to make all these people with such different views see me for who I am. And I think the most important thing I’ve learned while on my journey through life and the one which probably brought the biggest change is that I should not try to make them understand who I am. People only meet you as far as they’ve met themselves. A lot of people don’t know themselves well enough to understand others, and an awful lot don’t allow themselves to discover their true selves. It’s not easy discovering yourself, you won’t like everything about yourself, you’ll find things you need to work on, you’ll find traits you wish you never had, but at the same time, you’ll start appreciating things about yourself and find your strengths. And ultimately, it’s a combination of all these that makes you who you are, and you should be proud of it.

By accepting yourself for who you are, you become confident. Confident about yourself, confident that you can achieve your goals and confident that you can be yourself without getting the approval of others.

One does not become confident over night and as much as it is self-instruction, it is also an open mind that gets you here. Meeting new people, creating new friendships has also shaped me, because I’ve learnt to listen and hear different perspectives and sometimes that made me see where I was wrong or made me truly understand others’ views.

I think admitting that you are wrong and being at peace with it is so important. Just face it – you won’t always be right, you won’t always have the last word and it doesn’t always have to be your way. You have to find your way to your goals by being flexible and adapting to others, to unexpected circumstances, to life in general.

And as you get to know yourself and become confident in your own strength, you’ll find everything easier. Because you won’t stress on unneccessary things or opinions, and you’ll know that big or small, every problem has a solution and you’ll find it. Nothing lasts forever, not the bad times, nor the good ones. So enjoy the jolly moments and hold tight through the struggles, you’ll make it to the good days again.

I’ve learnt all this in the past few years and it has all transformed me into who I am today. It does not mean I am unbreakable, it does not mean I don’t have bad days, or that I have a solution to everything. It means that I got to a point where I know myself well enough to know that I will make it through thick and thin and use every experience as a lesson.

Fashion is still a very important part of who I am and the reason why I enjoy styling so much is because I can be whoever I want through fashion and shape my outfits so that they show my mood and state of mind. Today’s outfit shows a confident me – proud of my achievements, proud of who I am and proud of Destray for turning 2 years old – yeeey!

It’s a lot of time and it’s great to see that you’ve been reading my posts – some of you from the beginning, some of you joined along the way – regardless, a massive thank you and a big bear hug sent your way! It always makes me happy when people tell me that they enjoy reading my articles or get inspired by my outfits – it makes it all even more rewarding! I know I talk a lot, but please, join the conversation! I’d love to hear from my readers and see what inspires you or what is it that you can relate to!

What makes you feel confident?

Let’s keep the conversation going so that we end up celebrating many more years of Destray posts!

All my love, D.